Toxic Relationships - knowing when to step back

We all know relationships are supposed to add something to our lives. Support, laughter, energy, perspective. But sometimes the opposite happens. Instead of feeling uplifted, you leave an interaction drained, irritated, or questioning yourself. That’s the warning sign of a toxic relationship and it’s worth paying attention to.

Steer clear of toxic folk

Some people seem fine in a group but turn into a different version of themselves when it’s just the two of you. Maybe it’s gossip, maybe it’s constant mind games, or maybe it’s the way they twist conversations until you feel small. Whatever the behaviour, it leaves you flat. Setting boundaries is key here. Keep interactions short, make sure you’re not left alone if you can avoid it, and don’t feel guilty for protecting your own space. Prioritising your mental health isn’t selfish, it’s sensible.

Spot the takers

Healthy friendships are a two-way street. But some people only ever take. Conversations circle back to them every time, their problems always come first, and when you need support? Radio silence. They’re like someone constantly dipping into your friendship bank account without ever putting anything back in. Even if they’re entertaining in the moment, notice the imbalance. Over time it chips away at your energy and leaves you feeling undervalued.

Let go of one-sided connections

The hardest part is recognising when a relationship has become too one-sided. Maybe they contribute just enough to keep things going, but still expect control. Or maybe you’ve been carrying the whole weight for far too long. Letting go isn’t easy, especially if there’s history but sometimes stepping back is the healthiest decision you can make. Relationships should feel like shared effort, not a burden you’re forced to carry.

The bottom line

You don’t have to keep every relationship alive. Some connections fade for good reason. Protecting your energy is part of protecting your well-being, and surrounding yourself with people who make you feel lighter makes all the difference. The people worth keeping are the ones who give back, listen, and lift you up, not the ones who drain you.